My father died in 2007. It has been several years but I still feel him around us. His conversations and teachings are be still part of me.
I still remember the night of Ramadan 2007, October 2nd. It still brings me chills. I started going back to work after few days of his work because if I don’t then who is going to take care of my brother, sister and mom.
He has always been my support, my Google, my dictionary and answer to all problems. He had a solution for everything. I was so depended on him. One night! I wanted to ask him a question and he wasn’t around. I don’t know what dawned on me that I picked up the phone and dialed his number.
No one picked the phone but his voice mail started. On the voicemail I heard him say his name and tears started falling from my eyes. That was first ever time he was saying his name after his death. His voice gave me so much power and strength.
Can he just talk to me once and give his advice. Does he miss me? Is he ok? Is someone taking care of him? Can I touch his hand….his face?
I guess I will all these answers when I meet him in life ahead!
In our culture Bangles symbolize feminine beauty. They symbolize traditions and culture. Bangles also symbolize marriage. But why am I comparing them to shackles you will know.
When a woman gets married she is expected to behave in a certain way. She is expected to be obedient she’s expected to be not talking about her feelings and be submissive. I am talking about our culture especially women from India, Pakistan and Bangladesh where kids and husband becomes her life and her own existence is a question.
Women are not supposed to have a mind of their own. They are not supposed to have their opinion their suggestion about any situation.
Women have been living that kind of Life forever they have seen their mothers tolerating the abuse and neglect. They think it’s okay to get hit by their husband and get cursed. They don’t speak up because they think that if they do they’ll be kicked out of their house and they won’t have a place to live and survive.
But guess what! ladies there are a lot of ways to tackle the situations …find your way out! Please.
Purpose of this article mainly is to make all the women around me realize that they have something good in them they have to realize their skills….something they’re good that can become their power to survive the financial adversities.
Some women are good at cooking, some are good at stitching, some are good at singing or writing you just have to know what you can do to survive.
Destroy the shackles of marriage if you’re not happy with that one important person in your life.
You have to break those shackles/ Bangles and come out of your shell and explore the world around you. There is so much around you that you can do. Say ‘No’ to giving Dowry…. In Islam there is no dowry rather that is Haq Mehar which your husband is supposed to pay after marriage. Best idea would be knowing your religion. What your religion says about the relationship . of marriage.
Islam doesn’t at all say to tolerate domestic violence. It doesn’t tell us to stay in a relationship where there is abuse either physical or verbal.
I read in one of the books of religion that long time ago there was one unhappy wife. She went to Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and explained that the husband is more interested in his parrots than her. Prophet Mohamed PBUH ordered divorce in that scenario. In another scenario during an argument a husband hit his wife. The wife explained everything to our Prophet The husband apologized for his behavior and told that he did that in anger but the wife was not willing to let it go and requested for divorce which was allowed. I don’t know why women today do not realize their worth.
There will always be ways out of any bad situation you just have to find your path and God will help.
My grandma used to tell me a story of a bird who was in a cage and used to envy the birds in the sky. One day the owner of the cage let her out. She started to fly but she couldn’t…she wanted to run but she couldn’t because she was so used to of the life within the cage. She could not survive in the outside world. Please women don’t be like that bird where it becomes too late for you to survive in the outside world
Outspoken Women are scary because they have answers to all your questions.
Why do I have words?
Why do I have an opinion why do I question? Why do I retaliate?
Being born in a Pakistani family if I open my mouth and respond or react it’s considered that I’m being disrespectful which I’m not because I’m just speaking my mind.
My biggest problem is I cannot tolerate Injustice I cannot tolerate people lying I cannot tolerate inhumane attitude of people around me I am sorry if you feel that I’m rude I’m sorry but you cannot stop me.
I will speak up I will speak up about issues surrounding us issues surrounding our society.
Why is that if a man is outspoken he is considered a warrior but when a woman is opinionated that is a bad trait.
Mah-Sim 